Breaking the Cycle: Mindset Strategies for Lasting Change with Michael

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a brand new episode. Now, let's dive into the

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show. This interview, before I go on any rants

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and, well, you know how rants goes, I can't promise

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anything. But anyway, it was Michael, and we're

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just going to go right into the conversation

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before I go on any rants and tyrants. But during

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the interview, it might happen. Hi, Michael.

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What's up, Jimmy? How are you, man? Good. How

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are you? Good. Thanks for having me. So before

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we get started, can you tell us a little bit

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about who you are, what you do, how you got started,

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and why you got started? Sure. So I've been in

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the health and fitness personal training world

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since 2008, so 16 years now. First 10 years of

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my career, I managed a club in upstate New York,

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just working with general population. functional

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movement, athletic rehab, and athletic training.

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Really found my... Love for kind of health and

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physical strength in the hardstyle kettlebell

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world with the RKC and Strong First, a lot of

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the stuff that Pavel Tatsulin, Brett Jones was

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putting out. And then the last three years after

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a bunch of changes, which I'm sure we'll go into

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some, I've had my own business, which is more

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virtual and online coaching, focusing on the

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physical and mental performance side of strength

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for people. So my focus is really helping people

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who... have been in that kind of intermediate

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or advanced beginner stage where they've seen

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some success in changing habits in their life

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but now they're at a point where it's they're

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either stuck kind of the things that worked at

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the beginning don't work as well anymore and

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they're trying to get to that next level afterwards

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and i believe that's where the connection of

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really your mindset the story that you're telling

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your belief system that you have around yourself

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really starts to play in and so connecting that

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with your physical practices as well as other

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good habits of health, nutrition, sleep, all

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that stuff, connecting those together to really

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get more of a holistic approach of health and

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fitness into your lives. That's who I focus on

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working with now. So that's been really the last

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three years of my time and my career. It's an

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absolute blast. And I really love every day getting

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to do what I do. Well, I have to piggyback off

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of a few things that you said, because I really

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love health and wellness as well. Especially,

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it helps me wake up in the morning when I feel,

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even though sometimes I was like, what am I going

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to do this morning? And luckily, when I don't

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have a clue what to do, sometimes my platform

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that I use, called FitArm, I can... Sometimes

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he gives me recommendations like, here, do this.

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And it's like, okay, I don't know what else to

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do, so let's go do this. And then I also like,

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I'm also passionate about fitness. I'm very passionate

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about fitness because... Just hearing some people

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talking about taking medications and whatnot,

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it's like, I hate medications. I really use medications

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as the last resort. If I'm studying for a test

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or I have to take a big test in college, and

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if I'm sick, I would take the medication. But

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it's like, I hate medication. I really, really

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do. you know, for lack of a better term, it's

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a foundational practice, you know, so that word

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is thrown out a lot in a lot of different ways

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of building a foundation. What does it actually

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mean? It means something that you can build other

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things on top of, right? So, you know, fitness,

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having a good routine, eating, you know, healthy

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nutrition programs, mindset practices, stress

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management, like these are all staple things

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that we've known since the beginning of time,

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right? Unfortunately, now we're in a culture

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in many ways where it's very easy to supplement

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it with a quick fix pill, something that augments

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where we are at the moment and artificially puts

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us into a better state for the moment, but it

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doesn't actually solve any problem. We're focusing

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on the symptom rather than the cause. So fitness

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really is a, and really any type of physical

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endeavor and strength, if you work on that and

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you develop that. All other things are going

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to flow downstream from that. By happenstance,

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you're going to have a better mindset. You're

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going to have a better outlook on life. You're

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going to have a better belief in many ways. So

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I've talked to a lot of people that if you...

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If you aren't into a physical practice or a structured

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exercise -type program, just starting with that

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is going to solve quite a few things. Maybe it's

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not the end -all of what you want to do or solve

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everything. I mean, we're never going to solve

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all of our problems, right? It's just part of

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life. But it is a first foundational step of

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getting down. And once you get that down, all

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the other... small details and the minority of

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things that are going to get you to that next

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level, they start to become more prevalent. But

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you got to start with, you know, get into the

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body first and then a lot of other things are

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going to fall in place. I agree with a lot of

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that because I know for myself, well, I mean,

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I learned over the years of working out and everything

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is that if you lose weight fast, you gain it

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back quickly. If you lose weight over time, little

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bits here and there, you tend to keep it off.

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Currently, I've been working on losing some weight

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because I gained a lot in one of my semesters

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in college because it was very, very stressful

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for me. Math and me do not go together whatsoever.

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Basically, I gained 12 pounds. I admit that.

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And the reason I gained that weight was that

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even though I was going to karate three times

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a week, the other three days a week was cut short

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by a lot of studying. But I would like, oh, I'll

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fit in 10 minutes here, five minutes there. it

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wasn't necessary that the minutes were bad but

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i was eating more than i was burning and uh so

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and so far i've lost nine pounds from and this

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was from may to august so yeah You know, it's

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a step -by -step process. You know, the timeline

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of like getting to goals is always a good question,

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right? Because, you know, obviously it's the

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same with strength. If you try and maximize strength

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really quickly, you're not really building quality

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muscle. Like, you know, you need to put those

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steps in. So not only do you get to the goal

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that you want, but then it sticks and you know

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how to maintain it afterwards. And this is just,

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this is a struggle that we see just in our culture

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with health and fitness. You know, only, you

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know, as adults, 95 % of people fail to succeed

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long -term in their health and fitness. You know,

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even though there's, you know, three quarters

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of a million personal trainers out there, there's

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120 ,000, you know, box gyms, there's more online

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programs and information available. But the number

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of people who actually succeed long -term hasn't

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changed. It's still that minuscule, you know,

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one out of every 20. is going to get there. So

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the 95%, most of people are succeeding for a

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bit and then falling back to old habits and succeeding.

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It's this yo -yo cycle back and forth of implementing

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things when they're really motivated or have

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a lot of willpower at the moment, but then it's

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always falling back into old habits. So finding

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the process and finding the ways to not just

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get to your goal, because once you get to the

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goal, that's a great day. But the sun's going

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to come up the next day. Time keeps still moving

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on. You got more life to live afterwards. What

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are you going to do after that? How are you going

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to sustain it? And most people fall off one to

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three years afterwards, whether it's weight loss,

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they gain the weight back after a period of time.

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Most people, they're very good at getting to

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that original goal that they have. But sustaining

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it afterwards, that's where the majority of people

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fall off. So it's finding those... foundational

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practices, setting goals in the right way of

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actually connecting them with the other areas

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of your life that I work a lot with people on

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of just taking that extra step and peeling the

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layers back of exactly who do you want to be

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when you achieve this goal? Not just what you

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want to do, but who does this make you become?

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Because that's the purpose of a goal. It's not

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just getting the goal. It's who you want to become

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in the process of getting it. I definitely 100

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% agree with that. I think sometimes the reason

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why people tend to go back into the other ways

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is because most people, and I'm not saying anyone,

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but most people basically think as a diet short

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term. And it's like, oh, you know what, once

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I lose the weight, I can eat anything I want.

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That doesn't work. I'm only eating everything

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I wanted. I wouldn't fit on the screen. Yeah.

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Well, you know, if you put it into like a context

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of, let's say, education or going into school

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or business, right? If you just go through grades

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K through 12 and you get your high school degree

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and then you just put all this work in, you're

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like, oh, good, I made it. I graduated high school.

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And then you just stop learning anything. then

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you're just, now you're just plateaued. You're

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just stuck at that spot. We know that's not what

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we want to do in our life to support ourselves,

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support our family. You have to keep learning.

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When you get into a new job, you go in and you

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learn new skills. And if you want to keep progressing

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and keep going to the next level, you keep learning.

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You keep working on the next steps afterwards.

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So I've used this analogy a lot before is where

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a lot of people go into exercise or weight loss

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programs is they do something, they do it for

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a short period of time, and then it worked very

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well for that time. And then either they do what

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you said, they just revert back to old habits,

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revert back to old stories, and they gain it

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back. What do a lot of people do then when they're

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ready and they want to go back into this journey

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again? They say, oh, well, I'm just going to

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go back to what I did before. Well, you're a

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different person now. The thing that you did

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before is not going to work the same way as where

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you are right now. It's the same as if you go

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into high school and you do really well in ninth

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grade, your freshman year, you crush it. You

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get a 4 .0 and you're just doing awesome, right?

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Well, then if you go to the next level, you go

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to 10th grade and you start to fail a little

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bit or it's a little bit more challenging. Well,

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what are you going to do? I'm just going to go

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back to what I learned again in ninth grade because

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I did really well then. It's like, no, you're

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not that person anymore. You need to go to the

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next level. You need to learn the next steps.

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And I think what people are doing is they're

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doing over and over again the same thing. They

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keep going back to that grade that they did very

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well at before they saw some success. Not knowing

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that they've surpassed that where they are at

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the moment in their life is not the same as where

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they were before. You need to always figure out

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exactly where you are at the moment and figure

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out what you need now so you can progress going

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forward. And when you get to that next goal,

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all right, what's the next step that you need

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to take? Sometimes it's keeping those foundational

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practices going in, but then adding little bits

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and just learning new things and just mastering

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more skills afterwards. I definitely agree. I

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100 % agree with that as well because I was during

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a meeting with someone yesterday, I was talking

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to somebody who was kind of, they shared something

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similar about business as well. And I was like,

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they were talking about if you have multiple

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Zapier accounts. And it's becoming a big cluster.

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And it just, one thing breaks after another and

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another and another. And it's like, can you find

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a tool that basically does a lot of different

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things for you without having to rely on so many

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accounts? It's like, if you had like maybe two

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or three or four, that's one thing. And then

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when she said that, it's not. in my mind i was

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going to how many accounts i have and i had like

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14 accounts it's like yeah and i see what she's

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saying it's like uh how can i start slimming

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this down because it's being car it's causing

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me just a nightmare every single day like last

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few weeks i just been monitoring like this error

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after error every single time it posts something.

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I'm like, I don't know what any of this means.

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I can't reach out to customer support. I'm not

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paying for their customer support. And it's like,

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I can't figure this crap out. So I invested in

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this tool to see if I can simplify a few things

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with it. I can still connect to Zapier when I

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need certain things, but it's like, how could

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I possibly do this without making myself go crazy?

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And conserve energy, you know, because all that

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extra energy of like trying to figure this out

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and then going to customer service. It's the

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same thing that we look at with our personal

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development and personal growth. Like if you're

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trying to do a million things are always hopping

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from one thing to another. Well, that's all energy.

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It's like so the more you can conserve energy

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and this is where I talk about like the process

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of recovery and discovery. You know, I think

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we're very good at. discovering new things that

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we can do to add into our life it's a new program

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it's a new diet it's a new book that we just

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read like we're good at consuming more stuff

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to add in but we don't take the same amount of

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energy of looking at what do i need to remove

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from my life like where is the energy leaks that's

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going on what are the things that aren't serving

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me anymore because everything that we do regardless

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of what it is takes energy you know if you just

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You know, if you have two cars and you have to

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go and you have to run an errand and you can't

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decide which car you need to take, oh, should

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I take the blue one or should I take the black

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one? It's like, well, I have this, well, I can't

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find my keys and stuff. All those little, you

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know, finite little decisions, they're all taking

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energy from you. So the more you can break it

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down, it's okay. What are the things that are

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the high yielding tasks? What are the things

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that give me the most bang for my buck? And that's

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where, you know, quality exercise program, quality

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sleep, like all the things that we know of. But

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if you keep working on getting those foundational

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things down and put all your energy into those,

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you're ultimately going to win. You know, then

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you can put, I mean, then little details, little

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tweaks of stuff and things like that, they'll

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come into play along the line. But that foundational

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piece of getting those things down just simply

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and consistently, I think most of us, we try

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and, jump started. We try and turbocharge that

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time to get through. We try and think we need

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to do it for a month or two months. I've told

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people, do a couple of things for a year. Go

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like a straight year of just consistently walking

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every day if you want to lose weight. Get your

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steps from 5 ,000 to 7 ,000 or 7 ,000 to 9 ,000.

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Do that for a year and get that down. Then start

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talking about adding more stuff afterwards. but

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until you get that down and you go through different

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seasons of life where it is really challenging

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you mentioned the time in college when it was

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really busy and you had you know big tests going

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on that's a season of life that's not a time

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when maybe you can add a lot more stuff into

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you know your life you know you got to figure

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out what are the big rocks that i need to focus

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on it's the same when you go out and you get

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a job and now all of a sudden you're working

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for you know putting in a lot of energy and or

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you just started a family or you got married

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and you have new obligations or It's a holiday

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season and you got a lot of other obligations

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with your family that you need to go into. It's

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all these different seasons of life that pop

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in. It's not about being consistent at the time

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when you're most motivated and nothing else is

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taking you away from it and you can't get distracted.

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It's about how do you keep implementing these

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simple things regardless of what's happening

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in life. And that's going to take time because

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it takes. you know seasons to go through it takes

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times when you're feeling really good it takes

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times when you feel like absolute like it's all

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those different things if you can get through

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those marks that's building a strong foundation

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and that's when habits really stick so it's not

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like it's like that old cliche don't practice

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it until you get it right practice it until you

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can't get it wrong i love that so much especially

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but uh For me, working out over the years, honestly,

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I haven't been, I've only started tweaking stuff

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probably the last two, three, four years when

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I noticed, when I found out that I had slight

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arthritis in my right knee. I'm not sure about

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my left knee because, well. The x -ray, I didn't

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have an x -ray on. It was only the right knee.

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Thanks, insurance. Then, so basically, I took

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out lunges just because that puts too much pressure

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on my knee. And then I took out like side lunges

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or any kind of lunges and split squats. I replace

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them with something else, probably not the same

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movement, definitely not the same movement, but

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I might do an extra set of bicep curls or I just

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do an extra set of squats. But I just know I

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made these tweaks over the time. I've been working

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out since 2011 and I haven't stopped. The only

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time when I've ever stopped is when I'm sick

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because I'm not one of those people who believe

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in sweating it out, working out, whether you're

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at home. I tried that. And this was on the edge

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of me feeling better. I was like, oh, yeah, I'm

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going to go work out and see if I can sweat it

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out later. Well, after that day, I ended up still

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being sick for two more weeks. So I was like,

00:21:50.289 --> 00:21:53.650
great idea. And I made a mental note to myself,

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a permanent mental note to myself, never do this

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again. Yeah. It's a powerful reframe. you can

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always find something else that seems like it's

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the best way to do it. You see somebody and they're

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an advocate for this and you're like, oh, this

00:22:35.250 --> 00:22:37.190
is the best way. So then you program hop and

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you go do something else where what you just

00:22:40.589 --> 00:22:42.930
said is like, okay, lunges don't work well with

00:22:42.930 --> 00:22:44.789
the shit that I've got going on in my knees.

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All right, I'm going to adjust it. I'm going

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to tweak it. It's taken it from what's optimal

00:22:48.440 --> 00:22:51.259
to what's practical. And if you make those adjustments

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and always finding like, what's the most practical

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thing that I can do? Yeah. Maybe someone says

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that the optimal way of working out is five days

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a week. Okay. It's just an arbitrary thing that

00:23:01.559 --> 00:23:04.539
somebody said, maybe practical based on my life,

00:23:04.559 --> 00:23:07.559
based on my, um, you know, availability, what

00:23:07.559 --> 00:23:09.779
I have going on. Maybe it's three times a week.

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Now you think it's like, oh, anything below that

00:23:13.529 --> 00:23:17.009
is subpar. No, if you focus on three days a week,

00:23:17.289 --> 00:23:20.609
the practical actually becomes the optimal because

00:23:20.609 --> 00:23:23.569
it's something that you can actually do. So I

00:23:23.569 --> 00:23:26.630
think it's very easy, specifically in the fitness

00:23:26.630 --> 00:23:31.309
world, to get so confused and believe that things

00:23:31.309 --> 00:23:33.849
are so complicated of what you need to do in

00:23:33.849 --> 00:23:36.450
order to achieve the goals that you want. It's

00:23:36.450 --> 00:23:40.319
really not that complicated. You know, you need

00:23:40.319 --> 00:23:42.400
to do quality work. You need to do a push, pull,

00:23:42.519 --> 00:23:43.720
hinge, squat, low to carry. I mean, you could

00:23:43.720 --> 00:23:46.220
break down, you know, different programs over

00:23:46.220 --> 00:23:49.359
and over again. But from the work that I've done

00:23:49.359 --> 00:23:52.220
over, you know, 16 years, plus I've talked to

00:23:52.220 --> 00:23:54.140
so many different people on my show, I've connected

00:23:54.140 --> 00:23:56.420
with some of the best and the best in teaching

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and certifications. It all boils down into the

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same thing. You know, it's that simplicity and

00:24:01.250 --> 00:24:04.589
consistency and done over a long period of time.

00:24:04.670 --> 00:24:07.130
You know, it's the same thing as really anything

00:24:07.130 --> 00:24:11.410
of high value in our life, you know, like strong

00:24:11.410 --> 00:24:14.329
relationships, you know, strong career, strong

00:24:14.329 --> 00:24:17.390
family bonds, strong health, all these things

00:24:17.390 --> 00:24:20.670
that are really give you the most value and fulfillment

00:24:20.670 --> 00:24:24.710
in your life. Are the things that take more time

00:24:24.710 --> 00:24:27.349
and it just takes consistent effort over and

00:24:27.349 --> 00:24:30.049
over again. There's no shortcut. There's no pill

00:24:30.049 --> 00:24:32.730
that's going to just bring you down that line.

00:24:33.150 --> 00:24:35.190
And all of a sudden you're going to, you know,

00:24:35.190 --> 00:24:38.450
be rich in 20 days. You're not going to be fit

00:24:38.450 --> 00:24:40.230
in 20 days. You know, it's all this different

00:24:40.230 --> 00:24:43.799
stuff. So. Oh, you bummed me out. I thought I

00:24:43.799 --> 00:24:46.160
was going to be rich in 20 days. Sorry, brother.

00:24:46.319 --> 00:24:48.180
Yeah. It's like, it's, you know, tough, you know,

00:24:48.180 --> 00:24:50.220
once, yeah. Once in a while, there's like three

00:24:50.220 --> 00:24:52.339
people in the world that have done it. And then

00:24:52.339 --> 00:24:54.380
they write a book on how to get rich in 20 days,

00:24:54.400 --> 00:24:57.299
you know, but it's if, yeah, for the majority

00:24:57.299 --> 00:25:00.119
of stuff, like it's just not. And I think it's,

00:25:00.119 --> 00:25:04.200
it's a, it's a foolish pursuit to think that

00:25:04.200 --> 00:25:06.500
you can jump the line, you know, and just go

00:25:06.500 --> 00:25:09.049
like. because still if even if you get there

00:25:09.049 --> 00:25:11.029
and you don't have these foundational practices

00:25:11.029 --> 00:25:14.130
down it's going to be just a big fall down the

00:25:14.130 --> 00:25:18.670
hill afterwards you know well yeah it kind of

00:25:18.670 --> 00:25:23.450
goes back to what i've i admit i've been one

00:25:23.450 --> 00:25:27.819
of those people who've been trying to copy Not

00:25:27.819 --> 00:25:30.880
copy, but like a better word, but like, oh, this

00:25:30.880 --> 00:25:33.180
person implemented this. This person implemented

00:25:33.180 --> 00:25:36.559
that. Let me try to implement this. And I've

00:25:36.559 --> 00:25:42.640
done that before. And back to like one thing

00:25:42.640 --> 00:25:47.660
I wanted to go back on is like the tool that

00:25:47.660 --> 00:25:54.140
I invested in, I was looking for something that

00:25:54.140 --> 00:25:57.079
I can. put all my documents literally in one

00:25:57.079 --> 00:25:59.720
place because right now I have some stuff in

00:25:59.720 --> 00:26:03.700
OneDrive and then I have other stuff in Google

00:26:03.700 --> 00:26:06.440
Drive and I had all this stuff. And I was like,

00:26:06.460 --> 00:26:08.559
I'm getting tired of putting stuff all the way

00:26:08.559 --> 00:26:11.180
over here, all the way over here, all the way.

00:26:11.220 --> 00:26:13.700
And I was like, and I know Notion exists and

00:26:13.700 --> 00:26:16.240
I don't hate Notion, but the file size is like

00:26:16.240 --> 00:26:19.440
five megabytes. And it's like, you know, something's

00:26:19.440 --> 00:26:22.619
just going to be like. very big at some point

00:26:22.619 --> 00:26:25.759
and it's just not going to work and it's not

00:26:25.759 --> 00:26:30.279
going to upload. And I've always been on the

00:26:30.279 --> 00:26:33.700
lookout pretty much on one of my favorite sites,

00:26:33.740 --> 00:26:36.519
AppSumo. And it's like, if I could find something

00:26:36.519 --> 00:26:40.680
that I can store unlimited files up to like five

00:26:40.680 --> 00:26:43.759
gigabytes, because it's either going to be video

00:26:43.759 --> 00:26:48.180
or podcast or both. And I was like, I have a

00:26:48.180 --> 00:26:51.920
good buy. And the funny thing is, because I've

00:26:51.920 --> 00:26:54.740
been so patient over the months today, it just

00:26:54.740 --> 00:26:56.720
happened. The tool just popped out of nowhere.

00:26:56.940 --> 00:26:59.339
And it's like, this is a sign. It says, you've

00:26:59.339 --> 00:27:02.859
been patient here. Here's this new updated tool

00:27:02.859 --> 00:27:06.359
you've been waiting for. It doesn't have, it's

00:27:06.359 --> 00:27:08.680
like the only limit is five gigabytes and everything

00:27:08.680 --> 00:27:12.380
else is unlimited. And it's like, okay. this

00:27:12.380 --> 00:27:14.880
pretty much handed me on a silver platter and

00:27:14.880 --> 00:27:18.960
I had to go take it. I mean, I bought it. I mean,

00:27:18.980 --> 00:27:22.640
I didn't steal it, but I just want to clarify

00:27:22.640 --> 00:27:24.339
because somebody was like, oh, did you steal

00:27:24.339 --> 00:27:26.319
it? It's like, you can't steal a digital product.

00:27:27.220 --> 00:27:31.619
Yeah. No, I mean, it's, you know, It's fine to

00:27:31.619 --> 00:27:33.539
look at other people and be like, oh, that seems

00:27:33.539 --> 00:27:35.220
interesting. I'm going to implement that and

00:27:35.220 --> 00:27:38.039
try that and stuff. But, you know, as you said,

00:27:38.099 --> 00:27:39.519
like with working, I've been working out since

00:27:39.519 --> 00:27:42.200
2011. It's like you built a foundational practice

00:27:42.200 --> 00:27:44.319
of knowing you're going to do something. You're

00:27:44.319 --> 00:27:46.859
going to take action on it. I think once you

00:27:46.859 --> 00:27:49.039
get that down, that's fine. Tweak it, add some

00:27:49.039 --> 00:27:53.140
things, figure out more, you know, you know,

00:27:53.140 --> 00:27:55.700
some stronger ways to do things. That's fine.

00:27:56.440 --> 00:27:58.220
But if you're at the beginning steps and you

00:27:58.220 --> 00:28:01.980
haven't built that consistency in yet, just focus

00:28:01.980 --> 00:28:05.519
on that first. Just build some things in and

00:28:05.519 --> 00:28:07.359
just get those things out and do it for a period

00:28:07.359 --> 00:28:10.519
of time. And if you do that, then you're going

00:28:10.519 --> 00:28:15.059
to succeed. The degree of where you are at the

00:28:15.059 --> 00:28:17.000
spot, that's going to be subjective to everybody.

00:28:18.429 --> 00:28:20.250
you're going to succeed. And you're going to,

00:28:20.250 --> 00:28:21.890
even bigger than that, you're going to build

00:28:21.890 --> 00:28:23.869
a habit that now you've sustained and now you've

00:28:23.869 --> 00:28:26.250
built within your life. And then it's not so

00:28:26.250 --> 00:28:27.869
hard to implement anymore because you've been

00:28:27.869 --> 00:28:31.170
doing it for so long. I definitely agree with

00:28:31.170 --> 00:28:36.349
that because, and I think where, when we first

00:28:36.349 --> 00:28:39.569
got on, he asked me how I was doing and my brain

00:28:39.569 --> 00:28:41.309
would just been literally all over the place

00:28:41.309 --> 00:28:44.430
today. Yeah, with so many different customer

00:28:44.430 --> 00:28:46.930
support and I'm not even going to go down that

00:28:46.930 --> 00:28:50.410
road at the moment. But I was like, I was like,

00:28:50.430 --> 00:28:53.369
I really feel like once I put this tool into

00:28:53.369 --> 00:28:55.930
place, it's going to replace some of these other

00:28:55.930 --> 00:28:58.250
headaches that I've just been having. It's like,

00:28:58.289 --> 00:29:01.210
where am I going to store these videos? I don't

00:29:01.210 --> 00:29:04.329
like to know. Because like I've taken some videos

00:29:04.329 --> 00:29:07.289
from concerts and whatnot that I might use for

00:29:07.289 --> 00:29:10.859
my phone and whatnot. And whatnot is like. I

00:29:10.859 --> 00:29:13.819
have a digital picture frame that has all of

00:29:13.819 --> 00:29:18.240
them in storage and videos. But sometimes I don't

00:29:18.240 --> 00:29:21.440
want to just open up that app. I want a backup

00:29:21.440 --> 00:29:25.759
for videos. I don't want to put it on YouTube

00:29:25.759 --> 00:29:29.440
because Google and they'll probably make money

00:29:29.440 --> 00:29:38.000
off my stuff. So my point being is I think one

00:29:38.000 --> 00:29:41.609
of the things I absolutely I would say hate running

00:29:41.609 --> 00:29:44.230
from my own business. It's just all the admin

00:29:44.230 --> 00:29:46.630
work of keeping track of where this is, where

00:29:46.630 --> 00:29:49.910
this is, where this is. It's like, huh, no wonder

00:29:49.910 --> 00:29:51.710
why sometimes I have nightmares of technology

00:29:51.710 --> 00:29:54.450
trying to chase me down and eating me or something.

00:29:58.589 --> 00:30:01.170
I don't know if you maybe have that kind of dreams

00:30:01.170 --> 00:30:04.490
because, or maybe you just have like a, or maybe

00:30:04.490 --> 00:30:06.609
you have this kind of dreams where are you afraid

00:30:06.609 --> 00:30:09.250
that a pair of dumbbells is going to land on

00:30:09.250 --> 00:30:12.230
your, on your leg? Yeah, not so much anymore.

00:30:12.569 --> 00:30:14.630
It's, you know, I mean, like anything, you know,

00:30:14.630 --> 00:30:16.130
taking a business and running it, you know, I

00:30:16.130 --> 00:30:18.289
run my own business too. It's like, there's always

00:30:18.289 --> 00:30:21.710
things that, you know, you don't love doing as

00:30:21.710 --> 00:30:23.589
part of the process, but you just do it because

00:30:23.589 --> 00:30:25.720
you know that it's important. You know, there's

00:30:25.720 --> 00:30:27.559
always ways to figure it out, maybe like make

00:30:27.559 --> 00:30:29.980
it a little bit more, you know, efficient of

00:30:29.980 --> 00:30:32.180
doing, but I think that relates to everything,

00:30:32.299 --> 00:30:34.480
Jimmy, that you do. It's like, you're not going

00:30:34.480 --> 00:30:37.319
to love every part of the process of growing

00:30:37.319 --> 00:30:39.259
where you want to grow, you know? And it's like,

00:30:39.319 --> 00:30:45.319
I think that's where I always go back to who

00:30:45.319 --> 00:30:47.680
do I want to become? You know, who's the person

00:30:47.680 --> 00:30:49.519
that I'm trying to be? You know, I think this

00:30:49.519 --> 00:30:51.839
is a really important part of goal setting, you

00:30:51.839 --> 00:30:53.700
know, and I talked, I talked about this with.

00:30:54.440 --> 00:30:56.420
you know, quite a few people and I work with

00:30:56.420 --> 00:30:59.420
it with my clients is, you know, it's very easy

00:30:59.420 --> 00:31:01.319
to say, well, what's your goal? Oh, I want to

00:31:01.319 --> 00:31:03.440
do this. Okay. And then immediately, usually

00:31:03.440 --> 00:31:05.440
we just go into action and we start doing it.

00:31:05.740 --> 00:31:09.240
But if you just go a few, you know, just a layer

00:31:09.240 --> 00:31:11.799
or two deeper on that and just be like, how is

00:31:11.799 --> 00:31:13.680
life going to be different by accomplishing this

00:31:13.680 --> 00:31:16.059
goal? Who do I want to become in order to achieve

00:31:16.059 --> 00:31:18.839
this? Okay. I want to drop 30 pounds or I want

00:31:18.839 --> 00:31:20.799
to make a million dollars or I want to, you know,

00:31:20.799 --> 00:31:23.480
have a top 10 podcast, whatever it is. OK, well,

00:31:23.559 --> 00:31:27.579
if I achieve this goal, like who am I trying

00:31:27.579 --> 00:31:30.859
to become by getting this? And it's interesting

00:31:30.859 --> 00:31:34.380
getting the answers to this, because one, usually

00:31:34.380 --> 00:31:36.619
that answer is not right at the tip of your head.

00:31:36.680 --> 00:31:39.099
You know, it's like it's you know, you have to

00:31:39.099 --> 00:31:41.240
dig a little bit to be like, OK, what is it?

00:31:41.619 --> 00:31:44.930
And then it starts to get into, well. I want

00:31:44.930 --> 00:31:46.849
to be more confident. Okay. Why don't you feel

00:31:46.849 --> 00:31:49.250
confident right now? And then it starts getting

00:31:49.250 --> 00:31:51.609
into actually the emotional sides of where it

00:31:51.609 --> 00:31:54.049
really comes down to is I don't like where I

00:31:54.049 --> 00:31:57.170
am at this moment and I want to change. It's

00:31:57.170 --> 00:31:58.589
like we make change from two things, either to

00:31:58.589 --> 00:32:02.289
get pleasure or to avoid pain. Pain is usually

00:32:02.289 --> 00:32:07.309
a much stronger lever to force motivation out

00:32:07.309 --> 00:32:09.750
there. And if we don't talk about that, or if

00:32:09.750 --> 00:32:11.589
we don't align with that, or even just understand

00:32:11.589 --> 00:32:15.230
where that's coming from. then it's very easy

00:32:15.230 --> 00:32:20.250
to look at the things that we're doing as something

00:32:20.250 --> 00:32:25.509
outside of what we really value, right? If you

00:32:25.509 --> 00:32:28.769
are trying to get consistent with your exercise

00:32:28.769 --> 00:32:30.890
and your nutrition and your training program

00:32:30.890 --> 00:32:32.829
and actually become a more healthy, physically

00:32:32.829 --> 00:32:37.400
fit person. Well, if you tie that into how that

00:32:37.400 --> 00:32:40.019
makes you a better person with your family or

00:32:40.019 --> 00:32:41.740
how it makes you a better person when you connect

00:32:41.740 --> 00:32:44.259
with your friends or your business, the things

00:32:44.259 --> 00:32:46.500
that you really value and where you want to spend

00:32:46.500 --> 00:32:50.079
your time on. If you connect with that, then

00:32:50.079 --> 00:32:52.500
the days when you don't feel great or maybe at

00:32:52.500 --> 00:32:54.319
a bad night's sleep and stuff like that, like

00:32:54.319 --> 00:32:55.960
all those things are going to pop up naturally

00:32:55.960 --> 00:32:59.220
throughout life. If you know in you, well, I

00:32:59.220 --> 00:33:01.559
go and I train and I exercise because that's

00:33:01.559 --> 00:33:04.559
the person that I want to become. to be a better

00:33:04.559 --> 00:33:07.079
father, to be a better boss, to be a better employee,

00:33:07.259 --> 00:33:09.079
to be a better friend, be a better lover, whatever

00:33:09.079 --> 00:33:13.140
it is, right? If you connected with that, now

00:33:13.140 --> 00:33:17.640
you're actually making the training and the habits

00:33:17.640 --> 00:33:19.799
that you're trying to implement more valuable

00:33:19.799 --> 00:33:21.960
because they connect and make you better at the

00:33:21.960 --> 00:33:24.599
things that you already do value. And if you

00:33:24.599 --> 00:33:28.079
miss that point, it's very easy to just let those

00:33:28.079 --> 00:33:29.839
things fall by the wayside because it's very

00:33:29.839 --> 00:33:33.079
hard to implement a new habit. especially if

00:33:33.079 --> 00:33:35.359
it's something that's consistent. I've told people

00:33:35.359 --> 00:33:38.519
this of like, you know, even doing anything on

00:33:38.519 --> 00:33:41.319
a daily basis. If you add anything in for a daily

00:33:41.319 --> 00:33:44.680
basis, five minutes a day, logically, it's like,

00:33:44.720 --> 00:33:47.059
yeah, it's just five minutes a day, right? But

00:33:47.059 --> 00:33:48.960
if it's something that you're trying to do every

00:33:48.960 --> 00:33:52.220
day, that's a big change. That's a big habit.

00:33:52.279 --> 00:33:55.039
You just had a percentage of your life that you

00:33:55.039 --> 00:33:57.400
now are just adopting to implement a new habit.

00:33:58.009 --> 00:34:00.009
That's going to take a lot of effort. And if

00:34:00.009 --> 00:34:03.089
you don't tie that effort into really the ultimate

00:34:03.089 --> 00:34:05.890
person of who you want to become, it's way too

00:34:05.890 --> 00:34:09.929
easy to let obstacles and just scheduling obligations

00:34:09.929 --> 00:34:13.110
and whatever it is just derail you from that

00:34:13.110 --> 00:34:20.309
track. Well, if you don't mind, I'm going to

00:34:20.309 --> 00:34:23.690
try what you suggested real quick as an example.

00:34:26.360 --> 00:34:30.860
By purchasing that tool that I did today, and

00:34:30.860 --> 00:34:34.659
by purchasing that tool will help me minimize

00:34:34.659 --> 00:34:41.460
the stress of finding stuff. Because between

00:34:41.460 --> 00:34:45.800
my personal OneDrive account, my school OneDrive

00:34:45.800 --> 00:34:49.820
account, the school one is... temporary because

00:34:49.820 --> 00:34:53.880
I'm in college and it's not I don't have to pay

00:34:53.880 --> 00:34:56.559
for it but I mean I'm paying for college but

00:34:56.559 --> 00:34:59.179
I'm not I'm paying technically for that exact

00:34:59.179 --> 00:35:05.679
service and then I have five gmail accounts with

00:35:05.679 --> 00:35:09.019
five google drives and so just trying to find

00:35:09.019 --> 00:35:14.880
stuff it stresses me out because Sometimes errors

00:35:14.880 --> 00:35:18.960
hiccup, something might go missing, or something

00:35:18.960 --> 00:35:23.219
ended up I don't know where. And it's like one

00:35:23.219 --> 00:35:25.900
time I was trying to find one of my speeches

00:35:25.900 --> 00:35:32.860
to show someone an example of I couldn't find

00:35:32.860 --> 00:35:35.300
it. And it's like, where did I save this? I have

00:35:35.300 --> 00:35:45.789
no idea. By having this tool to help me manage

00:35:45.789 --> 00:35:51.349
everything more in a consistent, in a persistent

00:35:51.349 --> 00:35:55.670
location. And Notion was going to be like that

00:35:55.670 --> 00:35:58.849
for me, but I couldn't afford to pay for a subscription.

00:35:59.010 --> 00:36:01.929
So I bought a lifetime tool instead of paying

00:36:01.929 --> 00:36:05.929
a subscription for Notion. Not that I hate Notion

00:36:05.929 --> 00:36:07.610
or anything. I have no beef with them. I was

00:36:07.610 --> 00:36:10.869
like, I like them, but I also have, but I was

00:36:10.869 --> 00:36:14.659
like. But for my own sanity, it's like I have,

00:36:14.860 --> 00:36:17.980
I'm just basically, my brain is just all over

00:36:17.980 --> 00:36:23.179
the place. I can never, ever just, and plus by

00:36:23.179 --> 00:36:26.559
cutting down on finding where the stuff is, I

00:36:26.559 --> 00:36:31.019
can focus on this pretty much on the other aspects

00:36:31.019 --> 00:36:33.980
of my business and just instead of like, you

00:36:33.980 --> 00:36:37.480
know. One example of the tool I'm going to share

00:36:37.480 --> 00:36:40.860
is that I can actually set up automations. So

00:36:40.860 --> 00:36:45.159
once an interview is done, I can move that person

00:36:45.159 --> 00:36:48.679
to another list and it'll automatically tag it

00:36:48.679 --> 00:36:51.039
for me without having to do it manually, manually.

00:36:51.320 --> 00:36:55.519
This is bullcrap. I mean, it's helpful for me

00:36:55.519 --> 00:36:58.880
to know who was just recently on my show and

00:36:58.880 --> 00:37:03.539
whatnot. Doing everything manually is like, holy

00:37:03.539 --> 00:37:07.960
crap. This is really time consuming. Yeah. So

00:37:07.960 --> 00:37:10.179
time consuming and then stress. Those are the

00:37:10.179 --> 00:37:12.539
two things that we're trying to bring in. Yeah.

00:37:12.619 --> 00:37:14.960
So like the next question that I would like ask

00:37:14.960 --> 00:37:17.539
and like you go even deeper in is like, okay,

00:37:17.579 --> 00:37:20.159
like how is life different if I cut my stress

00:37:20.159 --> 00:37:23.800
down to 50 % from where it is now? You know,

00:37:23.800 --> 00:37:25.659
what would that do? Where would I implement that?

00:37:25.699 --> 00:37:28.539
How would that make me become a better person

00:37:28.539 --> 00:37:30.079
in all the other ventures that I'm doing? So

00:37:30.079 --> 00:37:32.059
the more you ask those questions and you bring

00:37:32.059 --> 00:37:34.840
it out, then the more you kind of, you get even

00:37:34.840 --> 00:37:37.940
clearer on the vision of this is what I'm trying

00:37:37.940 --> 00:37:39.579
to do. This is what I'm trying to become. These

00:37:39.579 --> 00:37:41.880
are the things that I value. I value my time.

00:37:42.199 --> 00:37:45.719
I value my energy. Okay. This is affecting my

00:37:45.719 --> 00:37:47.739
energy because I'm stressed out because of all,

00:37:47.780 --> 00:37:49.679
have all these different things in different

00:37:49.679 --> 00:37:53.679
spots. Okay. How is this going to solve this

00:37:53.679 --> 00:37:55.559
problem? Okay, I'm going to feel like this. So

00:37:55.559 --> 00:37:58.380
now you're tying it into, oh, this is how I want

00:37:58.380 --> 00:38:01.280
to feel. That's going to make you get this done

00:38:01.280 --> 00:38:03.159
a lot faster and make it more efficient. And

00:38:03.159 --> 00:38:04.960
then if you find something even better down the

00:38:04.960 --> 00:38:07.059
line and keep working on it, then you're going

00:38:07.059 --> 00:38:09.159
to know and you'll work on that because you know

00:38:09.159 --> 00:38:12.860
what you value. Well, to answer those last few

00:38:12.860 --> 00:38:17.690
questions, just to continue. Not trying to drag

00:38:17.690 --> 00:38:21.909
it all out. I'm using it as an example for a

00:38:21.909 --> 00:38:27.929
teaching method. So basically, by being stress

00:38:27.929 --> 00:38:31.570
-free, maybe not stress -free, but 50 % less

00:38:31.570 --> 00:38:35.570
stress, I've noticed when I wasn't stressed,

00:38:35.869 --> 00:38:40.610
I had better ideas, better topics for my speaking

00:38:40.610 --> 00:38:44.960
engagements. more ideas on how I can incorporate

00:38:44.960 --> 00:38:50.039
stuff in my Ted talk I'm working on. And, and

00:38:50.039 --> 00:38:54.380
it would also make me feel at ease of where those

00:38:54.380 --> 00:38:58.019
files are instead of having to say, Oh, I'm logged

00:38:58.019 --> 00:39:01.260
into this one driver account not to log out,

00:39:01.300 --> 00:39:04.099
to go back into this one driver account. Cause

00:39:04.099 --> 00:39:06.179
you know, I can't just, this can't just be a

00:39:06.179 --> 00:39:08.099
magic button that just says switch accounts.

00:39:08.400 --> 00:39:10.559
You know, that would just be too fricking nice.

00:39:12.659 --> 00:39:14.940
And sometimes even when those buttons do exist,

00:39:15.300 --> 00:39:17.500
I still have to log in again and put in my two

00:39:17.500 --> 00:39:19.340
-step authentication code because, you know,

00:39:19.500 --> 00:39:24.119
why make it such an easy, straightforward thing?

00:39:26.400 --> 00:39:28.880
Because technology can't just be easy and straightforward.

00:39:29.380 --> 00:39:32.199
Ask my college. I have to literally re -log in

00:39:32.199 --> 00:39:35.599
every 14 days and re -authenticate too. And it's

00:39:35.599 --> 00:39:38.239
like, oh, come on. Google at least gives me 30.

00:39:40.670 --> 00:39:43.610
Please do not speak anything about productivity,

00:39:43.949 --> 00:39:48.909
college. Because I'll be in the audience and

00:39:48.909 --> 00:39:54.690
can say BS. So my next few questions for you

00:39:54.690 --> 00:40:00.070
is, why do you think people have a hard time

00:40:00.070 --> 00:40:04.250
of reaching their goals, maintaining their goals?

00:40:06.490 --> 00:40:10.170
And why do they always keep falling back on every

00:40:10.170 --> 00:40:14.510
thing that they do because of the plateaus? Great

00:40:14.510 --> 00:40:18.809
question. So, you know, there could be a plethora

00:40:18.809 --> 00:40:22.349
of reasons behind. I think, you know, in a first

00:40:22.349 --> 00:40:25.889
principles answer, it comes down to the story

00:40:25.889 --> 00:40:28.889
that we tell ourselves. So I think that really

00:40:28.889 --> 00:40:34.690
comes into the mindset piece of it. You know,

00:40:34.710 --> 00:40:37.150
I'll give you some stats, which are really interesting,

00:40:37.230 --> 00:40:39.110
right? So there's a recent study that came out

00:40:39.110 --> 00:40:45.269
that 80 % of our thoughts are negative and 95

00:40:45.269 --> 00:40:49.800
% of them are repetitive. OK, so based on just

00:40:49.800 --> 00:40:51.920
the amount of thoughts that we have on a day

00:40:51.920 --> 00:40:55.599
by day basis. OK, we'll break this down. So if

00:40:55.599 --> 00:40:58.619
you work out for five days a week for a year,

00:40:58.719 --> 00:41:02.980
that's great. Right. That's 260 workouts. If

00:41:02.980 --> 00:41:06.679
you eat three healthy meals a day for a year,

00:41:06.800 --> 00:41:09.960
that's just under eleven hundred healthy meals.

00:41:10.159 --> 00:41:13.800
OK, that's great, too. If you have 80, if you

00:41:13.800 --> 00:41:18.199
have. 80 % of your thoughts negative for a year,

00:41:18.300 --> 00:41:21.880
that's 1 .8 million negative thoughts that you

00:41:21.880 --> 00:41:25.780
have a year. So by sheer numbers alone, what

00:41:25.780 --> 00:41:27.639
do you think is going to make the boat most impact?

00:41:28.179 --> 00:41:30.440
The negative thoughts? It's what you're saying

00:41:30.440 --> 00:41:32.619
between your ears. Yeah, you can't out -workout,

00:41:32.659 --> 00:41:36.679
you can't out -healthy eat a poor mindset. So

00:41:36.679 --> 00:41:39.179
I think at the beginning steps, if you're at

00:41:39.179 --> 00:41:41.039
the beginning of a journey, yeah, just adding

00:41:41.039 --> 00:41:43.159
some physical practice and working through the

00:41:43.159 --> 00:41:44.760
body, that's going to give you some success.

00:41:45.380 --> 00:41:48.099
But where most people fail and they hit that

00:41:48.099 --> 00:41:50.820
plateau and then they fall back, it's because

00:41:50.820 --> 00:41:52.940
they haven't changed the story of who they said

00:41:52.940 --> 00:41:55.179
they are within themselves. So it's kind of like

00:41:55.179 --> 00:41:58.400
if somebody is a smoker, right? And they say,

00:41:58.480 --> 00:42:00.000
oh, like they're trying to quit smoking. Oh,

00:42:00.059 --> 00:42:03.179
it's great. I haven't smoked for 20 days or I

00:42:03.179 --> 00:42:05.940
haven't smoked for 30 days, right? Well, yeah,

00:42:05.980 --> 00:42:08.019
that's great. It's a good starting point. But

00:42:08.019 --> 00:42:10.559
if you're counting the days, why are you counting

00:42:10.559 --> 00:42:12.059
the days? You're just counting the days until

00:42:12.059 --> 00:42:15.360
you do start smoking again. Because subconsciously,

00:42:15.360 --> 00:42:17.719
you might be still saying that I am a smoker.

00:42:17.760 --> 00:42:21.239
Right now, I'm just not smoking. When it really

00:42:21.239 --> 00:42:24.260
changes over is when you finally check in with

00:42:24.260 --> 00:42:26.360
yourself and you change your identity and say,

00:42:26.460 --> 00:42:32.079
I'm not a smoker. I don't smoke. So with health

00:42:32.079 --> 00:42:34.860
and fitness. When it gets to that point where

00:42:34.860 --> 00:42:37.460
you say, oh, I worked out three days a week this

00:42:37.460 --> 00:42:39.179
week. That's awesome. Oh, I worked out five days

00:42:39.179 --> 00:42:41.440
a week. That's awesome. You're doing the things,

00:42:41.579 --> 00:42:45.199
but you're subconsciously also still not saying,

00:42:45.320 --> 00:42:47.960
I'm somebody who works out three days a week

00:42:47.960 --> 00:42:50.199
or five days a week. You're not identifying with

00:42:50.199 --> 00:42:52.840
that. And that's where the story that we say

00:42:52.840 --> 00:42:55.059
within our ears is always going to win just because

00:42:55.059 --> 00:42:57.199
of the sheer volume of thoughts that we have

00:42:57.199 --> 00:43:02.599
over all the other things that we can do. I've

00:43:02.599 --> 00:43:05.579
seen people that are in like a weight loss journey,

00:43:05.820 --> 00:43:08.219
right? And they want to lose 50 pounds, let's

00:43:08.219 --> 00:43:10.719
say, and they've lost 15 pounds and they're doing

00:43:10.719 --> 00:43:12.519
really well and they're on a good track, right?

00:43:12.579 --> 00:43:14.500
And you say, hey, great job. Like you dropped

00:43:14.500 --> 00:43:16.820
15 pounds. That's awesome. How do you feel? And

00:43:16.820 --> 00:43:19.820
their response often is, well, I still got a

00:43:19.820 --> 00:43:22.159
long way to go. It's like, yeah, like they won't

00:43:22.159 --> 00:43:24.519
actually acknowledge that they're on the path

00:43:24.519 --> 00:43:27.320
of success. They're almost waiting for the other

00:43:27.320 --> 00:43:29.119
shoe to drop because they're still identifying

00:43:29.119 --> 00:43:31.059
with that person who's 50 pounds overweight.

00:43:32.139 --> 00:43:34.440
So I think by the questions, and we talked about

00:43:34.440 --> 00:43:36.940
this at the beginning of the podcast, is actually

00:43:36.940 --> 00:43:39.800
talking about how is life going to be different

00:43:39.800 --> 00:43:43.179
when I do achieve this goal? Because I think

00:43:43.179 --> 00:43:45.059
a lot of the things, if you don't actually connect

00:43:45.059 --> 00:43:47.460
with those thoughts and you say, okay, this is

00:43:47.460 --> 00:43:49.420
the person that I want to become, this is who

00:43:49.420 --> 00:43:53.300
I identify with, then it's just too hard. There's

00:43:53.300 --> 00:43:55.119
just too much time for you to just fall back

00:43:55.119 --> 00:43:57.320
into old habits, self -soothing habits. That's

00:43:57.320 --> 00:44:00.219
when we go into... different addictions you know

00:44:00.219 --> 00:44:03.460
it could be you know food it could be drugs it

00:44:03.460 --> 00:44:05.539
could be pornography whatever it is like all

00:44:05.539 --> 00:44:08.300
people we fall back into those old habits of

00:44:08.300 --> 00:44:11.599
those self -soothing until you get into the mindset

00:44:11.599 --> 00:44:14.920
side of it so there's two practices that i always

00:44:14.920 --> 00:44:16.619
say and i start with people on is number one

00:44:16.619 --> 00:44:18.780
is starting the day with an intention create

00:44:18.780 --> 00:44:21.900
a mantra like a short statement about who you

00:44:21.900 --> 00:44:24.860
want to become in that day and then just say

00:44:24.860 --> 00:44:26.579
it just start it right off the bat in the day

00:44:27.199 --> 00:44:28.900
And then at the end of the day, you bookend it

00:44:28.900 --> 00:44:31.719
and you count your victories. What went well

00:44:31.719 --> 00:44:34.139
throughout the day? Just write out everything

00:44:34.139 --> 00:44:36.059
that you did, everything that went well through

00:44:36.059 --> 00:44:38.039
in the day. It doesn't have to be just the things

00:44:38.039 --> 00:44:39.920
that you did, but how did you feel in different

00:44:39.920 --> 00:44:43.619
ways? Maybe like you were just in a really good

00:44:43.619 --> 00:44:45.599
mood or maybe you just felt very calm for the

00:44:45.599 --> 00:44:48.059
day and you just want to bring that in. Write

00:44:48.059 --> 00:44:51.480
those down. Why this is so powerful, Jimmy, is

00:44:51.480 --> 00:44:53.960
because if 80 % of our thoughts are negative,

00:44:54.860 --> 00:44:57.900
You can actually rewire your brain. Okay. There

00:44:57.900 --> 00:45:00.119
is a thing as neuroplasticity. You can change

00:45:00.119 --> 00:45:02.900
it. If you want a day by day basis, actually

00:45:02.900 --> 00:45:05.340
take a moment and focus on what are the positives

00:45:05.340 --> 00:45:07.980
that you have throughout the day. In a pretty

00:45:07.980 --> 00:45:11.019
short period of time, you start to recognize

00:45:11.019 --> 00:45:13.719
the positive things throughout the day because

00:45:13.719 --> 00:45:15.219
you know, you're going to check them off at the

00:45:15.219 --> 00:45:17.380
end of it. And then you start seeing the good

00:45:17.380 --> 00:45:20.280
things that are going on. Okay. So these are

00:45:20.280 --> 00:45:22.360
just the tips, but the main point of what you

00:45:22.360 --> 00:45:26.639
said with your question is there comes to a point

00:45:26.639 --> 00:45:28.559
where you have to go into the mindset and you

00:45:28.559 --> 00:45:30.219
have to look at the story that you're telling

00:45:30.219 --> 00:45:33.639
yourself. If you're still identifying with the

00:45:33.639 --> 00:45:36.079
person that you were or like the person that

00:45:36.079 --> 00:45:38.579
you've been versus the person that you want to

00:45:38.579 --> 00:45:41.480
become by achieving these goals, then it's not

00:45:41.480 --> 00:45:44.679
a matter of if, it's just a matter of when it's

00:45:44.679 --> 00:45:47.320
going to start to backslide. And then so many

00:45:47.320 --> 00:45:50.679
people fall into this. just realm of kind of

00:45:50.679 --> 00:45:53.519
mediocre, like they're doing okay, like we're

00:45:53.519 --> 00:45:56.420
doing good enough, you know, it's like, but it's

00:45:56.420 --> 00:45:59.599
really not ultimately fulfilling. And I think

00:45:59.599 --> 00:46:01.599
that's a really challenging place to be. And

00:46:01.599 --> 00:46:04.860
I was there for a pretty long period of my adult

00:46:04.860 --> 00:46:08.059
life of being in that like zone of kind of doing

00:46:08.059 --> 00:46:10.820
okay, like everything was fine, but it wasn't

00:46:10.820 --> 00:46:14.059
great. And it's like, it's very easy to fall

00:46:14.059 --> 00:46:17.360
into just that, like that middle of the line

00:46:17.360 --> 00:46:21.469
pack. And that's a tough place to be. And it's

00:46:21.469 --> 00:46:23.969
very, very challenging to get out of that mindset.

00:46:24.389 --> 00:46:28.309
It starts with just changing that identity. You

00:46:28.309 --> 00:46:31.429
know, I knew there was a reason why I had you

00:46:31.429 --> 00:46:35.670
on my show because I really, I'm glad you said

00:46:35.670 --> 00:46:39.190
that because there's, I've been falling into

00:46:39.190 --> 00:46:43.449
a mindset lately and I admit this openly that

00:46:43.449 --> 00:46:48.500
I fall into a mindset where I used to be addicted

00:46:48.500 --> 00:46:51.599
to video games, played them every single day.

00:46:51.840 --> 00:46:54.739
Now I've only played them on the weekend. I got

00:46:54.739 --> 00:46:58.039
over that addiction. Then I fall into a very

00:46:58.039 --> 00:47:00.780
annoying bad habit, and I'm not going to share

00:47:00.780 --> 00:47:06.320
with you what the habit is, but I have been really

00:47:06.320 --> 00:47:10.420
kind of digging mentally deeply. But then when

00:47:10.420 --> 00:47:13.579
you said that, I was like... I kind of took a

00:47:13.579 --> 00:47:18.039
minute and I kind of realized I've been still

00:47:18.039 --> 00:47:21.980
falling back to the same old, same old. I get

00:47:21.980 --> 00:47:26.719
to a certain day, keep going backwards. Do the

00:47:26.719 --> 00:47:30.679
same thing, keep going backwards. Had a 192 -day

00:47:30.679 --> 00:47:34.019
streak, went backwards. Never been up to 192

00:47:34.019 --> 00:47:39.110
ever since. And that's it. I really think you

00:47:39.110 --> 00:47:42.170
have, I wouldn't say solved it, but I think you

00:47:42.170 --> 00:47:46.289
might have hit the nail on the head. It's a strong

00:47:46.289 --> 00:47:49.449
reframe, man. And you're not alone. Everybody's

00:47:49.449 --> 00:47:51.650
been there in one way or another. I've been there.

00:47:51.909 --> 00:47:53.769
Everybody I've talked to and worked with has

00:47:53.769 --> 00:47:56.949
been there in some sort of fashion, right? It's

00:47:56.949 --> 00:47:59.809
very easy to self -soothe in a lot of different

00:47:59.809 --> 00:48:01.510
ways with, and everybody has their different

00:48:01.510 --> 00:48:05.480
spots that they go into. Most of these things

00:48:05.480 --> 00:48:07.780
are always readily available. So it's that choice

00:48:07.780 --> 00:48:10.360
to make on an everyday basis. You know, it's

00:48:10.360 --> 00:48:13.400
like I always like the, you know, Ed Milet, the,

00:48:13.480 --> 00:48:15.719
you know, famous business entrepreneur, has a

00:48:15.719 --> 00:48:17.420
book, The Power of One More. And I love this

00:48:17.420 --> 00:48:19.260
story that he talks about with his dad because

00:48:19.260 --> 00:48:22.219
his dad is an alcoholic, very bad alcoholic growing

00:48:22.219 --> 00:48:25.559
up and found his way and got out of it. And now

00:48:25.559 --> 00:48:27.820
he was sober. And before he died, he was talking

00:48:27.820 --> 00:48:31.659
about a story of being with him and. you know,

00:48:31.659 --> 00:48:34.900
just a nice family gathering together, um, of

00:48:34.900 --> 00:48:36.800
like a celebration of some just, you know, enjoying

00:48:36.800 --> 00:48:39.139
each other's company and kind of asked his dad,

00:48:39.219 --> 00:48:41.000
he's like, do you think you'll ever drink it?

00:48:41.000 --> 00:48:42.420
Like, do you think you'll ever drink again? Like,

00:48:42.440 --> 00:48:45.139
are you done with it? And he's like, his dad's

00:48:45.139 --> 00:48:47.920
like, I don't know. I have no idea if I'm going

00:48:47.920 --> 00:48:49.760
to drink again, but I know I'm going to go one

00:48:49.760 --> 00:48:53.159
day more. And it's like, and it's just, I love

00:48:53.159 --> 00:48:57.019
that reframe of it because we view time as such

00:48:57.019 --> 00:48:59.599
this weird thing, right? It's like, we think

00:48:59.599 --> 00:49:01.719
that the past is real and the future is real.

00:49:01.760 --> 00:49:04.739
It's not. Like literally only thing about time

00:49:04.739 --> 00:49:06.860
is right now. In this moment right now, me and

00:49:06.860 --> 00:49:09.239
you talking, this is the only time that actually

00:49:09.239 --> 00:49:13.579
exists, right? So it's like the, if you focus

00:49:13.579 --> 00:49:16.340
on that frame of just what can I do in this moment?

00:49:16.380 --> 00:49:19.780
What can I do in this day at the most, right?

00:49:20.570 --> 00:49:22.530
All you have to do is just focus on that one

00:49:22.530 --> 00:49:24.530
day. And I think of that all the time of like,

00:49:24.550 --> 00:49:27.349
if I'm not feeling great or I'm feeling just

00:49:27.349 --> 00:49:29.550
kind of unmotivated to do the things that I need

00:49:29.550 --> 00:49:32.329
to do, I'm just like, okay, like tomorrow, like

00:49:32.329 --> 00:49:34.329
whatever, I can slack off tomorrow. I can do

00:49:34.329 --> 00:49:36.530
all that tomorrow, but not today. I'm going to

00:49:36.530 --> 00:49:38.449
go one day more and I'm going to get what I need

00:49:38.449 --> 00:49:42.150
to done. And if you keep that reframe in there,

00:49:42.269 --> 00:49:45.989
it's amazing what you can do when you just focus

00:49:45.989 --> 00:49:49.960
on what you can do in the here and now. I definitely

00:49:49.960 --> 00:49:54.539
100 % agree. I'm going to share a quick story

00:49:54.539 --> 00:50:01.340
real quick. A couple of weeks ago, about a month

00:50:01.340 --> 00:50:06.619
ago, I fell into this annoying funk. I kind of

00:50:06.619 --> 00:50:09.659
felt like I didn't have any friends. I kind of

00:50:09.659 --> 00:50:14.719
felt like just blah. I didn't really have a feeling.

00:50:14.760 --> 00:50:18.329
It was just middle of the road. I was kind of

00:50:18.329 --> 00:50:25.469
at my crossroads. I'm going to have to give an

00:50:25.469 --> 00:50:28.829
example of that. One of my favorite shows, Avatar

00:50:28.829 --> 00:50:33.150
The Last Airbender, one of the episodes was Crossroads

00:50:33.150 --> 00:50:37.960
of Destiny. I was pretty much looking at the

00:50:37.960 --> 00:50:41.820
fork in the road and it's like which path am

00:50:41.820 --> 00:50:44.539
I going to go? The one that will just close crazy

00:50:44.539 --> 00:50:47.579
fitness guy or the one that keeps going and jumping

00:50:47.579 --> 00:50:51.860
up hurdles? I basically just pretty much I was

00:50:51.860 --> 00:50:55.980
in a limbo and I just kind of just and just kind

00:50:55.980 --> 00:50:58.219
of just picture this real quick. You're pretty

00:50:58.219 --> 00:51:02.159
much in this pretty much on the road before the

00:51:02.159 --> 00:51:08.739
tube pass. And it's a very, very long road before

00:51:08.739 --> 00:51:13.860
the paths. And I'm just limboing around. I had

00:51:13.860 --> 00:51:16.880
no clue what to do. I couldn't decide what I

00:51:16.880 --> 00:51:21.000
wanted to do. There was one day where I had a

00:51:21.000 --> 00:51:24.219
lot on my plate, and I just decided not to do

00:51:24.219 --> 00:51:27.440
any of it. And the reason why is because I was

00:51:27.440 --> 00:51:30.179
like, my brain can't make another decision. I

00:51:30.179 --> 00:51:34.260
can't do it. And my brain went just insane. What

00:51:34.260 --> 00:51:37.500
do you want to do? And it's like my brain became

00:51:37.500 --> 00:51:41.000
like toothpaste because it's like, well, what

00:51:41.000 --> 00:51:42.800
do you want to do? And I just kind of talked

00:51:42.800 --> 00:51:45.099
it back and forth. And I was just a middle person.

00:51:45.139 --> 00:51:47.860
And it's like, stop doing this. It's like, this

00:51:47.860 --> 00:51:51.840
is ridiculous. It took me weeks. And even though

00:51:51.840 --> 00:51:54.840
I seem fine on the outside, everything up here,

00:51:54.920 --> 00:51:57.940
which is. screw everything. I don't want to do

00:51:57.940 --> 00:52:03.219
it anymore. It's like, what am I doing? And just

00:52:03.219 --> 00:52:06.460
like a whole long list of this is not working

00:52:06.460 --> 00:52:08.320
and this is not working and this is not working.

00:52:08.559 --> 00:52:13.000
And the list goes on and on. And what kind of

00:52:13.000 --> 00:52:19.039
helped me was that there was a colleague of mine

00:52:19.039 --> 00:52:25.400
did this free webinar. And it wasn't a free webinar

00:52:25.400 --> 00:52:28.840
meeting where he was trying to sell you on something.

00:52:29.019 --> 00:52:33.940
It was an actually helpful free webinar. And

00:52:33.940 --> 00:52:36.739
even though I had to miss karate, I was like,

00:52:36.780 --> 00:52:39.280
I need to get myself out of this funk. And it's

00:52:39.280 --> 00:52:41.760
like, it's driving me nuts. It's probably driving

00:52:41.760 --> 00:52:47.059
a lot of my parents nuts because I just, I didn't,

00:52:47.059 --> 00:52:49.500
I basically, when they listened, when they were

00:52:49.500 --> 00:52:52.780
talking to me, I basically listened with only

00:52:52.780 --> 00:52:57.380
half a year. I was like, huh, what? And I admit,

00:52:57.440 --> 00:53:01.659
I probably was told kind of a tool for doing

00:53:01.659 --> 00:53:04.880
that. And it's not that I wanted to do that,

00:53:04.980 --> 00:53:07.360
but my brain was just all over the place. It's

00:53:07.360 --> 00:53:11.139
like, do I listen to my brain, the people that

00:53:11.139 --> 00:53:14.579
are talking to me? And I think what else has

00:53:14.579 --> 00:53:17.900
helped me was people at Karate reached out to

00:53:17.900 --> 00:53:24.800
me. I got to see some of my close friends. And

00:53:24.800 --> 00:53:27.360
so I was like, okay, they still exist and they

00:53:27.360 --> 00:53:30.119
still want to stay friends with me. But just

00:53:30.119 --> 00:53:32.840
some reason in my brain, my mind's like, nobody

00:53:32.840 --> 00:53:36.099
wants to hang out with me anymore. And I listen

00:53:36.099 --> 00:53:38.539
to my brain. It's like, you know, brain, you're

00:53:38.539 --> 00:53:40.480
smart, but you're a pain in the ass sometimes.

00:53:42.500 --> 00:53:44.980
Yeah. Our brain is reflexive, man. You know,

00:53:45.000 --> 00:53:47.739
it's like. you know, we think our thoughts are

00:53:47.739 --> 00:53:50.099
reality. They're not, you know, it's just a reactive

00:53:50.099 --> 00:53:52.099
system that's going on. And most of them are

00:53:52.099 --> 00:53:54.400
just repetitive over and over again, you know,

00:53:54.400 --> 00:53:56.559
from there. So, but you know, decision fatigue

00:53:56.559 --> 00:53:58.940
is a real thing, you know, and it's like, it

00:53:58.940 --> 00:54:01.300
can get very easy to fall down those spots of

00:54:01.300 --> 00:54:03.599
what do I do? What do I do on this stuff? And

00:54:03.599 --> 00:54:08.420
then, so, you know, one thing I, I try and harp

00:54:08.420 --> 00:54:10.880
on a lot with my clients and the people I work

00:54:10.880 --> 00:54:13.960
with is the difference between setting standards

00:54:13.960 --> 00:54:17.750
and setting expectations. I think we are very

00:54:17.750 --> 00:54:21.489
good at setting expectations. We start a new

00:54:21.489 --> 00:54:24.070
venture. We start a new journey, a new fitness

00:54:24.070 --> 00:54:25.969
program. And we're like, oh, I'm going to do

00:54:25.969 --> 00:54:28.570
this. And by this day, I'm going to look like

00:54:28.570 --> 00:54:30.309
this. Or this day, I'm going to feel like this.

00:54:30.349 --> 00:54:32.610
Or I'm going to get to this mark and do all this

00:54:32.610 --> 00:54:35.670
stuff. It's like, if this, then this. It's this

00:54:35.670 --> 00:54:38.150
type of stuff. But expectations are outside of

00:54:38.150 --> 00:54:40.559
our control. If you flip that over and be like,

00:54:40.619 --> 00:54:42.659
okay, what are the standards that I'm going to

00:54:42.659 --> 00:54:44.820
hold myself to? What are the non -negotiables

00:54:44.820 --> 00:54:47.619
that I work with? And I just look at that, okay,

00:54:47.699 --> 00:54:49.460
like what's the non -negotiable? If everything

00:54:49.460 --> 00:54:52.360
goes to crap today or everything goes to crap

00:54:52.360 --> 00:54:56.440
this week, what am I still going to do? What

00:54:56.440 --> 00:54:59.119
am I still going to hold myself to? And those

00:54:59.119 --> 00:55:02.219
are the standards that you have. And again, connecting

00:55:02.219 --> 00:55:04.579
it with that overarching message of who do you

00:55:04.579 --> 00:55:06.420
want to be and going through that exercise as

00:55:06.420 --> 00:55:09.559
well is really powerful. But doing that and saying,

00:55:09.639 --> 00:55:11.300
okay, these are the non -negotiable. I'm not

00:55:11.300 --> 00:55:14.360
negotiating this. Like it takes that decision

00:55:14.360 --> 00:55:16.780
fatigue out of it of like, regardless of what

00:55:16.780 --> 00:55:18.900
goes on, I'm still getting these done. And it

00:55:18.900 --> 00:55:21.159
might just be one thing. It might be a couple

00:55:21.159 --> 00:55:23.360
things, you know, you got to be honest with yourself

00:55:23.360 --> 00:55:25.019
and know exactly where you are in the moment

00:55:25.019 --> 00:55:29.130
of what you can do. This is why I found this

00:55:29.130 --> 00:55:31.349
is so powerful, Jimmy. This is freaking so crazy.

00:55:31.690 --> 00:55:37.829
I think one of the main reasons why we struggle

00:55:37.829 --> 00:55:41.449
so much is because we don't believe in our own

00:55:41.449 --> 00:55:44.429
word. We don't believe in that when we say we're

00:55:44.429 --> 00:55:46.230
going to do something, we're actually going to

00:55:46.230 --> 00:55:50.489
do it. Because most adults, we've been through

00:55:50.489 --> 00:55:52.889
times where we said we're going to do something

00:55:52.889 --> 00:55:55.210
and then we fell short or we stopped or we quit.

00:55:55.769 --> 00:55:59.349
And it builds this just message in our head that

00:55:59.349 --> 00:56:02.150
we don't trust ourselves. It's a lack of self

00:56:02.150 --> 00:56:07.030
-belief in a way. By setting up standards and

00:56:07.030 --> 00:56:09.329
those non -negotiables and starting it at the

00:56:09.329 --> 00:56:13.110
minuscule, minute thing, okay, just aim 1 % up.

00:56:13.590 --> 00:56:16.829
And if you do that effectively and you hold yourself

00:56:16.829 --> 00:56:20.030
to that, then each week you go back, you review

00:56:20.030 --> 00:56:22.130
your game tape, and you realize that you did

00:56:22.130 --> 00:56:25.400
what you said you're going to do. You're trusting

00:56:25.400 --> 00:56:27.659
your own word. You're building a habit in your

00:56:27.659 --> 00:56:30.559
own mind that when you say you're going to do

00:56:30.559 --> 00:56:33.780
something, you do it. And I think that is where

00:56:33.780 --> 00:56:37.280
self -confidence comes from. I remember Joel

00:56:37.280 --> 00:56:38.900
Cochran came on my show and he said that. He's

00:56:38.900 --> 00:56:43.179
like, as coaches, he's like, our main goal and

00:56:43.179 --> 00:56:45.719
our main objective with working with anybody,

00:56:45.900 --> 00:56:47.960
it's not to get people in shape. It's not people

00:56:47.960 --> 00:56:50.840
to get these before and after pictures. It's

00:56:50.840 --> 00:56:53.429
to instill self -confidence. Because when somebody

00:56:53.429 --> 00:56:56.010
is confident in their ability and believes that

00:56:56.010 --> 00:56:58.409
they can do what they set out to do, they can

00:56:58.409 --> 00:57:01.590
move mountains. People are incredible. Like we

00:57:01.590 --> 00:57:05.170
are absolutely an incredible species. Look at

00:57:05.170 --> 00:57:06.789
all the stuff that we have around here. Everything

00:57:06.789 --> 00:57:09.449
has been made by somebody. Like we have some

00:57:09.449 --> 00:57:12.849
crazy, crazy stuff that we've evolved into. It's

00:57:12.849 --> 00:57:14.530
all been made by somebody. And a lot of it is

00:57:14.530 --> 00:57:17.969
from somebody who believed that this was possible.

00:57:18.719 --> 00:57:21.099
And I think if you do that for yourself and you

00:57:21.099 --> 00:57:23.980
start where you are, and it could be if you're

00:57:23.980 --> 00:57:26.039
so sedentary and you haven't done anything, just

00:57:26.039 --> 00:57:28.260
getting up and walking for five minutes a day

00:57:28.260 --> 00:57:30.559
or 10 minutes a day. Right. And you're like,

00:57:30.619 --> 00:57:32.059
this is why a non -negotiable, I'm not going

00:57:32.059 --> 00:57:34.719
to do anything else. Right. If I do more stuff,

00:57:34.820 --> 00:57:37.579
great. Like cherry on top of the Sunday, but

00:57:37.579 --> 00:57:39.639
I'm going to hold myself to this. And you keep

00:57:39.639 --> 00:57:44.280
doing that over and over again, then. Regardless

00:57:44.280 --> 00:57:47.179
of what happens, the success that you get or

00:57:47.179 --> 00:57:51.739
the degree of where you want to be, that's going

00:57:51.739 --> 00:57:54.920
to happen, regardless. The time of it, who knows?

00:57:55.199 --> 00:57:58.400
But the habit that you've just built up over

00:57:58.400 --> 00:58:01.900
that time is that you've become a person that

00:58:01.900 --> 00:58:06.139
does what they say they're going to do. So my

00:58:06.139 --> 00:58:10.019
last few questions before I let you go. Who's

00:58:10.019 --> 00:58:12.539
your favorite podcaster and why? And feel free

00:58:12.539 --> 00:58:20.440
not to say me. So probably Modern Wisdom, Chris

00:58:20.440 --> 00:58:22.539
Williamson is probably my favorite that I listen

00:58:22.539 --> 00:58:25.539
to the most. I really love his interviewing style,

00:58:25.820 --> 00:58:28.280
the amount of work and the research that he puts

00:58:28.280 --> 00:58:32.400
into people. Him, Lex Friedman, I really love

00:58:32.400 --> 00:58:36.059
the way that he... The questions that he asks,

00:58:36.179 --> 00:58:38.280
kind of the open -endedness of questions that

00:58:38.280 --> 00:58:41.820
he goes into. Those are two of my favorites that

00:58:41.820 --> 00:58:44.539
I do. I love Theo Vaughn just because I think

00:58:44.539 --> 00:58:50.619
he has an ability to just humanize everybody

00:58:50.619 --> 00:58:53.940
that he talks to in a way that I think is so

00:58:53.940 --> 00:58:57.480
powerful. Some other ones that are really powerful

00:58:57.480 --> 00:59:00.559
is Luca Husserl, who's a phenomenal coach out

00:59:00.559 --> 00:59:03.480
of... Seattle, I believe, has the Vigor Life

00:59:03.480 --> 00:59:07.039
podcast. And he's an unbelievable coach. You

00:59:07.039 --> 00:59:09.079
really want to dive into the strength and conditioning

00:59:09.079 --> 00:59:12.440
worlds of stuff. He has some amazing guests on.

00:59:12.519 --> 00:59:15.000
He's an absolutely great guy to connect with.

00:59:15.099 --> 00:59:18.699
Those are the ones that I jive with the most.

00:59:20.219 --> 00:59:23.300
And my last question for you is, where can people

00:59:23.300 --> 00:59:25.119
follow you, find you, and learn more about who

00:59:25.119 --> 00:59:28.260
you are and what you do? Sure. So I have my podcast,

00:59:28.400 --> 00:59:30.840
which is called The Strength Connection. You

00:59:30.840 --> 00:59:32.679
can go and check that out. It's on all podcast

00:59:32.679 --> 00:59:35.960
platforms. I think we have 255 episodes out right

00:59:35.960 --> 00:59:39.500
now, mostly talking about stories of strength

00:59:39.500 --> 00:59:42.739
physically, mentally, spiritually. You can find

00:59:42.739 --> 00:59:46.820
me on my Facebook group is where I connect with

00:59:46.820 --> 00:59:48.659
a lot, which is called The Strength Connection.

00:59:48.960 --> 00:59:53.150
And then if you go to. my website, which is the

00:59:53.150 --> 00:59:55.650
easiest, which is called mystrengthconnection

00:59:55.650 --> 01:00:00.550
.com. Right at the top, there is a free video

01:00:00.550 --> 01:00:02.750
there, which is a five -minute mindset, where

01:00:02.750 --> 01:00:04.730
if you want to really focus on changing your

01:00:04.730 --> 01:00:06.909
mindset in just a couple of practices that take

01:00:06.909 --> 01:00:09.449
a couple minutes a day, go in and check that

01:00:09.449 --> 01:00:14.650
out. That is the... most exciting thing that

01:00:14.650 --> 01:00:16.690
I've put out recently on there. It's really helping

01:00:16.690 --> 01:00:18.389
a lot of people. I have all my clients that are

01:00:18.389 --> 01:00:20.710
working with it and other people who have just

01:00:20.710 --> 01:00:22.769
found me getting into that and have said that

01:00:22.769 --> 01:00:25.590
it's really helped them. Awesome. I'll put all

01:00:25.590 --> 01:00:28.409
those links in the show notes. And thank you

01:00:28.409 --> 01:00:30.289
for being a guest on the show. And I would love

01:00:30.289 --> 01:00:32.349
to have you back on in the future. Thanks, Jimmy.

01:00:32.449 --> 01:00:36.219
Appreciate it. Anytime, man. So that's all the

01:00:36.219 --> 01:00:38.659
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